Uncle Bud

[AlabamAlum]

still screw 1-2 times a week

but her ass would be out if she pulled that shit after all the crap weve been though the first 15 years. led to getting divorced. Now doing the second round--10 years last week on our second go around- married 16 years first go round divorced for 5 years -----but only apart for 1 year

go out every sunday night for dinner and get head in the car on the way home --one of these days I'll let her drive and see if she can keep a steady speed

having everybody move out of the house has been a godsend

When you divorced the first time, was it due to an affair?

[crashcourse]

pretty much

hard to go through a army course with 100 brand new lieuteniuts all nurses--with 30 of us from PA school all with more then 10 years in

throw in they had us off post for 2 months in sanantonio with my family in kentucky

I fucked up she got me back we got dovorced and I think our kids got us back together. now we are really good

[AlabamAlum]

As many who used to be on CNNSI know, I had a thing with an intern and was separated for about a year.

[sardis]

"as long as the house was clean and dinner was on the table eh"

She don't do that now.

[eCat]

then you're just a lazy motherfucker

[Jungle Rat]

I'd never remarry my ex wife. She got really fat and angry looking. Her ass barely fits through a standard door way without her having to go in sideways.

[sardis]

I like eating out.

[AlabamAlum]

I can't speak for Sardis, but it really isn't laziness. I believe that I could forgive her, much as she has forgiven me in the past. We have a great relationship, she is smart, funny, and there is love there. And as far as blaming the guy, I've been on the other side, too. Plus, I know that there is no Svengali that could manipulate or mesmerize my wife into anything.

[AlabamAlum]

Oh, unless the lazy motherfucker thing is about cooking and housecleaning and not about going Liam Neeson on the wife and her dalliance.

[eCat]

I don't know - I'm not there yet

I doubt I'd want a divorce, but I'd be a surly sumbitch to live with for awhile

Fair enough.

When your wife was contemplating a thing with that girl, if it had become a 4-way (like the other guy wanted), how would you have reacted?

I actually put some thought into it - I think I could have dealt with it if he just kind of laid there and let her be in charge - then he'd be nothing more than a sex toy, you know?

but as soon as he started telling her what to do and grabbing this and rubbing that - I'd be like "PLAYTIME IS OVER" and it would have to happen with all of us in the same room so I could keep up with what is going on, plus I'd be severely stressed to the point I might not be able to perform. The closest I've ever been to that situation is my friend and I had sex with our girlfriend in beds side by side in the dark during spring break Daytona but you could only see shadows and we didn't talk to each other. (although his girlfriend got confused later on that night and got into bed with me and my GF buck naked which was interesting for a few moments - also he got mad at me when I threw a cupcake at him)

alcohol would definitely have to be involved. That night in New Orleans at one of the bars we were at, my wife did kiss him while I kissed her friend - and I wasn't overly bothered by it - mainly because I was completely trashed. Then her friend asked me if I thought she was attractive with my wife standing next to her and it started getting weird to me. I muttered something about "I think you have great tits" but my response probably killed the vibe for awhile. Keep in mind at this point I didn't realize her friend was leading up to me banging her while her man banged my wife. We were still in "hey its great to see you" mode.

That said, we invited the couple up to visit us for Halloween but they couldn't make it.

[eCat]

Oh, unless the lazy motherfucker thing is about cooking and housecleaning and not about going Liam Neeson on the wife and her dalliance.

I was joking about how he she could have an affair, not clean or cook - and he isn't phased by it.

[crashcourse]

my wife lets me do most anything I want --play golf twice a week doesnt get raggy if i dont pay attention to her for a couple of days long as i give her all day satruday--share a tv night throu the week and get her out of kansas 2 weeks a year

she' does all my landry keeps a great house is a great mom and now grandma and definitely is a gilf.

Im not gonna fuck that up again

[AlabamAlum]

Interesting.....

[hedge]

When you have fucked up as much as I have and been forgiven, it's hard to hold a grudge or even get worked up when the person who has put up with my shit (which includes pretty much everyone I know) steps out of line a bit. I think I've told it before, one time the MIF went to Key West with a girlfriend, which of course I took as an opportunity to use drugs, the MIF could hear it in my voice when we talked on the phone, she was pissed (deservedly so) and hooked up with some dude on a yacht (prompting AA to refer to me as a cuckold for a few days - carry on). She told me about it about a week after she got back, I was nonplussed. I felt like I had forced her into it, it's just not the kind of thing she would do if she wasn't pissed at me, so I was more ashamed of myself than mad at her. She actually got mad at me b/c I wasn't mad at her...

[AlabamAlum]

Yes, I remember the cuckold comments. Was trying hard to piss you off and I felt like I was chipping away at your veneer, but never fully broke through. It was a disappointing exchange for me, personally.

[Bklyn]

Personally, I thought you had him close to cracking at times.

[eCat]

next time don't answer the phone stoned

[AlabamAlum]

Bklyn,

When I set out to piss off and emotionally unravel people, I usually have more tangible results, though.

[Jungle Rat]

next time don't answer the phone stoned

Might as well just take away his phone then.

[hedge]

"Yes, I remember the cuckold comments. Was trying hard to piss you off and I felt like I was chipping away at your veneer, but never fully broke through. It was a disappointing exchange for me, personally."

Well, when you've done as much cuckolding as I have, it would be pretty hypocritical to get mad when it's done to me. I think I would be more hurt than mad if any of my serious girlfriends had just hooked up with somebody out of the blue (i.e., not being justifiably prompted by my own shennanigans), but like I said, I can't think of any relationship I've ever been in where I didn't cheat, or at least definitely would have if the opportunity came up. I guess if might be different if I had ever been married, not sure. Seems like it would, anyway. Maybe that's why I never have. I've never consciously thought that, but maybe unconsciously. I was pretty motivated along those lines in my younger days. Now it seems like too much work, and definitely very limited opportunity. Plus, the only chicks who would hook up with me now, I'm not terribly attracted to. Now then, if some hot little 20-something came on to me, I doubt I could refuse it, but that's about as likely to happen as winning the lottery. Unless I go hang out with Logan in the Philippines. But that's not even reality over there, that's just fantasy land...