Dr. Strangelove wrote:LMAO
So morals are relative after all
Not really, but we'll get to that in a moment. I'm guessing you are not going to like what I will say next.
Dr. Strangelove wrote:If you think it's wrong to cheat on your wife, then what he did is immoral.
If you think it's only immoral if HE thinks it was, then you're a moral relativist.
In order for you to be a moral relativist, you must first understand the root purpose of morality. In order for us to do that, we have to go way the fuck back in time.
Morality (in and of itself) was based on the absolute premise
that a woman can be ruined.
That's it. That is morality (or should I say IM-morality.) If your actions can cause (or
help to cause) ruin to be brought to a woman, then what you do is immoral. If what you do is about preserving a woman so that she is NOT ruined, then what you are doing IS moral. Those are the guidelines for morality.
Okay so how is a woman "ruined?" Those six words I boldened, what do they mean exactly and why are they important? Why is it so important that women not be ruined so much so that customs and (in fact) LAWS are writen around the concept of morality?
A ruined woman is (for lack of a better term) an unmarried woman who is no longer virgin. That woman is now officially "ruined." That is what Jack Woltz was talking about when he told Tom Hagen that he would never cast Johnny Fontaine in a movie because Johnny "ruined" a girl (ie: ruined = fucked her while she was an unmarried virgin) Jack Woltz himself wanted. Because she was no longer virgin, she no longer had any worth/value to Jack Woltz. Now this whole concept of a woman being "ruined" doesn't mean that much today, but back in the day when people discussed the concept of morality, it made perfect sense. It made so much sense, I would never have had to explain this to you (or to anyone.)
So Dr Strangelove, why was it so important that a woman not be "ruined?" Well, back in the day (when the greatest earning power was derived from physical labor) it was almost impossible for a woman to financially support herself in adulthood. A woman was simply not physically strong enough to do a job that provided the earning power to afford a lifestyle to support oneself (let alone pay rent in a cheap tenement and support a family.) Teachers made next to nothing, librarians made even less than that, and nursing, well... the pay there was basically zero (a wage your typical Nun would earn in a Catholic hospital) mostly because nursing was little more than changing bed pans and making beds prior to Florence Nightingale. Forget nurses administering drugs, there hardly wasn't any. Really, no career jobs that offered earning power to pay for any lifestyle outside the home you grew up in...
How is a woman "ruined" by not being a virgin? Well, back in the day, men were sexual perverts. Not much has changed there (we are still perverts) but back in the day men judged women's value NOT by women's intelligence or education but instead, by their youth, beauty, and (most importantly) their unruptured hymens! Purity was of utmost value. That is what made a woman valuable to a man, valuable enough that he would be willing to marry her and support her for the rest of his life. And even then, a man was expected to have a DOWRY settled upon him from the father of the bride simply because the father of the bride will no longer be financially responsible for the financial burden of his own daughter! (That is a dowry.)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowry
Pretty disturbing huh, Dr Strangelove? Well it gets even worse. Where did diamond engagement rings come from? If you said they were some scheme created by DeBeers in order to add outragous value to a very hard piece of carbon you'd be wrong. The diamond engagement ring was created around the concept of insuring a woman against her "ruin!"
Lookie here:
http://www.theatlantic.com/business/arc ... gs/255434/
The Atlantic wrote:Once upon a time, diamond rings weren't just gifts. They were, frankly, virginity insurance.
A now-obsolete law called the "Breach of Promise to Marry" once allowed women to sue men for breaking off an engagement. Back then, there was a high premium on women being virgins when they married -- or at least when they got engaged. Surveys from the 1940s show that roughly half of engaged couples reported being intimate before the big day. If the groom-to-be walked out after he and the bride-to-be had sex, that left her in a precarious position. From a social angle, she had been permanently "damaged." From an economic angle, she had lost her market value. So Breach of Promise to Marry was born.
In this sense: Damaged = "ruined."
Here too...
http://www.wanderings.net/blog/posts/wh ... ven-to-men
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In closing, what is and what is NOT moral,
is not relative. It is entirely based on if what you are doing ruins a woman or helps to prevent her from being ruined. That is morality, nothing more, nothing less. That is why it is deviant and dastardly for grown men to prey upon young virgin girls (we send them to jail for that.) On the other hand, female teachers like one former Cincinnati Bengals cheerleader and Deborah Lefave (fucking their underage male students) there is no sexual taboo there since a boy is expected to be able to support himself in adulthood and could never be "ruined." Only a girl could. This is the reason why these women have not done prison time and why society doesn't frown upon it as much when women sexualize underage boys.
So, it doesn't really matter if what this guys thinks is immoral or not (and it doesn't matter what you or I think.) If we are talking "morality" it only matters if this girl he fucked was a virgin first before he had her. And no one on this board will ever know the answer to that.