So you've said. I know differently.hedge wrote: ↑Tue Jul 05, 2022 11:32 amFor every women who regrets getting an abortion, there are a dozen who, if not glad they did, are satisfied they made the right choice and comfortable with their decision. And then there are those, like your mom, who very much regret not getting an abortion and who ended up exactly like the non-existent women you describe above, b/c of you...me wrote:The four women I have known to have had abortions (the ones who admitted it to me), they had them when they were 19, 23, 25, and 31. Those were their ages at the time. I met them many years later. All four of them, were jaded. All four of them, were broken, wounded, and shitty inside. None of them had happy homes to come home to at the end of the day. None of them had loving husbands. None of them had living children. None of them had normal lives. I'm not saying the abortion caused all that. But I am saying it was a part of it.
Do I think it is possible for a woman who had an abortion (or two) to eventually get married, have a family, and be happy in her life and womanhood? Sure, that is possible. But its not exactly, likely. We all know the marriage rate in the United States is in the dumper (the single largest household size nowadays are singletons) and we all know the birthrate hits new record lows each year as well. You know that as well as I do, what was common and ordinary lifestyle for the majority of women (regardless of their IQ, religion, or skin complexion) is now an increasingly rare thing only for the most promising women. Its not supposed to be that way hedge, but it is. I know the numbers.
Men increasingly do not want to marry. That is self-evident. There are ten thousand "catch-a-man" books at the book store for lonely women wanting to know what to do to snag a husband. There are no books for men on how to "catch-a-woman." The first thing I would tell a lonely woman is DON'T be things or DON'T behave certain ways. Don't get pregnant out of wedlock. Don't be broke and in debt with the student loans/credit cards. Don't be jaded. Don't be demanding. Don't be obnoxious. Don't continuously fail marshmallow tests. And don't always carry on in life like you have so much less than you are entitled. They may not want to hear it from me but that doesn't make me wrong. And having that abortion, feeds into pretty much all those DON'Ts. These dozen or so women that you say exist that you say are satisfied they made the right choice? Meh. The numbers don't show that. Marriage is rare for women. Happiness is rare for women. Even contentment is getting rare for women. But I don't think you give a damn about that because I don't think your response was a serous one that even YOU believe.
