hedge wrote:I think it's good for teens to work. I put in tobacco every summer starting the summer after 8th grade. Graduated to the warehouse by the time I was a junior, that was a bit easier. Also kept score for men's league basketball down at the rec center on week nights during the season. Of course, by then, I was dealing a little weed as well. Helps build a good work ethic...
The best part of working at the tobacco warehouse was the time that I was sitting on a pile of tobacco sheets one day and Stu was walking towards me. Stu has an inordinate fear of insects (and birds), and I saw some type of huge cicada-like flying bug hovering around behind him. Somehow this bug went up the back of Stu's shirt and he went into convulsions of terror, took off running and screaming while simultaneously ripping his shirt off. I've never seen him move so fast...
I don't think its bad to work but I just don't see the need to be in a hurry to do it. Although its probably something the boy needs - exposing him to a world of people outside his circle might be a good thing.
I gave him a few pieces of advice - mainly that there is nothing there he needs - I don't care if its a grape being thrown out in the trash - you don't take anything -food, candy, Oak Ridge Boys CD, whatever and also, he's going to be working with people that have made bad choices in life - right now they are on a different life trajectory than you are, but if you listen to them, or emulate their life, you're going to be on the same trajectory they are. They are probably good people, but look at them as a cautionary tale for not making yourself more valuable to society. You are there to get spending money, some of them are there to pay the rent and survive.
I started working on farms during the summer around 8th grade and looking back it might have been the most fun I've had at work continually in my life. The farmer I worked for was a functional drunk but generally a great guy and he kept me laughing all the time, plus I had some decent pocket money to blow on girls.
My junior year I went to work at a pizza place and overall I'd say the bad of it outweighed the good. I worked with some truly scummy people that influenced my views on life because I just didn't have any context to anything else...hence my advice to the boy.